If you were married in a church, what was your vows and promise, the pastor said do you take this man or woman, etc, etc, and you or he said YES!
The wedding day vows and promise was before God and the witnesses, and it was Till Death Do Us Part.
Whether in a church or on a mountain top God honors your vows.
God intended for marriage to be a unbreakable union between a man and a woman. Why Till Death Do Us Part.
Beloved, There is nothing more beautiful than to read what God has to say about marriage and the way love should be between a husband and wife...
Beloved, Obey Him and Your marriage will be blessed...
Hebrews 12:4 Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled."
I Corinthians 13: 4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Again beloved, Marriage Takes Three
I once thought marriage took Just two to make a go, but now I am convinced it takes the Lord also. And not one marriage fails where Christ is asked to enter, as lovers come together With Jesus at the center. But marriage seldom thrives, and homes are incomplete, Till He is welcomed there to help avoid defeat.
In homes where Christ is first, it’s obvious to see, those unions really work, for marriage still takes three.
Let’s go to Gods word and see what it says
Ephesians 5:31 "For this reason (the reason of marriage) a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.
Beloved, God hate divorce
Malachi 2: 16 "For I hate divorce"
So what should a man or a woman do?
Pray for your marriage to be loving and peaceful and ask God to protect your marriage.
1. Put God First In Your Marriage!
If you put God second or not at all; watch chaos begin, guaranteed! If you desire an excellent marriage, build it on God's foundation; study God's word on marriage, and of the roles of husband and wife. Be obedient and faithful to God and what His desires are for your marriage. Ask God for strengthening in your marriage everyday.
This will lay out a firm foundation for the marriage. Again God is our firm foundation!
Mark 10:9"Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate."
2. Pray together!
Pray for your growth in your marriage. Take all your problems to God, He is your counselor. Give to Him all your troubles, fears, worries, and desperations.
Praying together for all these things will also open up the communication between the two of you.
Matthew 11: 28-30 "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light."
3. Respect and Honor each other.
Love your spouse more than you love yourself. Respect each other.
Ephesians 5:25 Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she repsect her husband."
4. Encourage each other, Build up and encourage one another.
1 Thessalonian 5:11 "Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing."
5. Read God's word and study together as much as you can. Set aside time to spend together in worship.
6. Be quick to hear and slow to speak.
Wrong words begin with wrong thoughts. Take time to realize what your about to say. You should not speak to one another with anger, abuse, or malicious speech.
Ephesians 4:15 "but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all apsects into Him who is head even Christ."
Colossians 2:17 "But now you also, put them all aside: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth."
7.Communication
Make time to communicate, how will you know what your spouse is feeling or what their needs are if you don't. Set aside time weekly to sit down and talk about everything going on in your lives.
8. Protect and honor your marriage vows.
9. Do not let others come between your marriage.
10. Thank God daily for your mate and your life together.
Love one another daily...
John 15:11-13 "These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full. This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one's life for his friends."
You have a choice to LOVE... You must choose to Love.
Even if your spouse is not responding, show love to them. Don't let your heart harden and show, anger bitterness or resentment! Ask God to give you strength to Love unselfishly, to expect nothing in return for the love you give! It is God's command!
What choice have you made today?
John 13:34–35 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know you are My disciples, if you love one another."
Choose to Love your spouse with great kindness patience and understanding, to be truthful and faithful, to encourage, give hope and help, to please and be unselfish, and to grow together and most of all to be forgiving.
'Requirements of the Husband'
A man shall leave father and mother and cleave to his wife (Matthew 28)
Let every man have his own wife. (1 Corinthians)
Husbands shall dwell with their wives according to knowledge, giving honor unto them, as unto the weaker vessle.
Husbands love your wives, even as Christ loved the Church, and gave himself for it (Ephesians 5)
So ought man to love their wives as their own bodies, he that loveth his wife, loveth himself (Ephesians 5)
Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence (Corinthians) 1:7:3 kindness
If a husband provide not for his own wife and children, he is worse than an infidel (1 Timothy 5:8) untrustworthy
A man shall cheer up his wife (Deuteronomy 24:5)
Husbands love your wives, and be not bitter against them (Corinthians 3:12)
Art thou bound to a wife, seek not to be loosed (Corinthians1:27)
Marriage is honorable in all (Hebrews 13)
Let not the husband put away his wife (1 Corinthians)
Let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth..God hateth putting away (Matthew 2)
It is a wicked act that a man should gain the heart of a woman, and then forsake his wife.
'Requirements of the Wife'
A wifes desire shall be to her husband (Genesis 3) (i.e. she shall be subject unto him)
Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord (Ephesians 6)
Let not the wife depart from her husband (1 Corinthians)
Marriage is honorable in all (Hebrews 13)
Let the wife tender unto her husband due benevolence (1 Corinthians)
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband (1 Corinthians)
Let every woman have her own husband (1 Corinthians)
She that is married careth (or should care) how she may please her husband (1 Corinthians)
I will that women marry, bear children guide the house (1 Timothy)
A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband (Proverbs 42). morally excellent
The woman which hath an husband, is bound by the law to her husband, so long as he liveth (Romans 7)
Aged women should behave as becometh holiness & that they may teach the young women, to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands (Deuteronomy 2)
"Whom God hath joined together, let no man put asunder"